Habits determine your life. When you create a goal, you should also create habits to help you reach that goal. For instance, if your goal is to create a successful business around knitting, but you know nothing about knitting, one habit you can create is learning something new about knitting every day. But, there are some personal issues that can keep you from forming new habits. If you have major problems forming new habits, then it’s likely that one of the following 5 issues is holding you back.
1. Low Motivation
You start out knowing exactly why you want to form a new habit, but as time goes on, the reason why gets clouded thanks to effort, uncomfortable feelings, and a desire to go back to the way things were because.
If you want to form a new habit, you must remember your end goal – the thing that keeps you going and motivates you to take action day after day.
If you can’t find and keep your motivation, then read 11 ways to get motivated to do what you need to do.
The popular motivational speaker Mel Robbins says that when you start to question yourself, you physically hesitate. And, that hesitation becomes a habit that stops you. In fact, you get into a habit of doubting yourself, hesitating, and then letting that hesitation stop you from doing what you want to do.
The problem is that we all have self-doubt, so it’s a matter of overcoming the hesitation if you want to do what you need to do.
Mel Robbins has developed a technique that helps you plow through the hesitation, no matter how much self-doubt you have. If you haven’t heard about the 5 second rule, check it out here.
3. Looking For perfection
If you are looking for perfection, you will give up before you really even start.
One small screw up can send you running away from your new habit and back to your comfort zone.
Look for progress not perfection. Pat yourself on the back each time you do something towards forming your new habit, even if it’s a small thing. Be proud of your efforts, not upset with them. That will keep you moving forward and, ultimately, forming the new habit.
4. Not Making Time
In the beginning, a new habit requires scheduled time. It may require scheduled time for you to do, to prep for, or just to reflect on, but you need to devote some time to forming your new habit if you want it to form.
If you don’t devote that time, then you will use your time for things that are in your comfort zone instead of devoting it to an uncomfortable new activity or thought. For example, if you don’t schedule time to take that course you want to take, then you are more likely to watch YouTube or a TV show as it’s a more comfortable habit that feels good in the moment.
Morning, noon, or night? After a specific activity like supper? You decide when to devote time to your new habit, but once you come up with the time, make sure that time goes towards your new habit only.
5. Feeling Like You Know Everything
You decide you want to develop a new habit, but as things become more and more uncomfortable, you decide this habit is stupid or just not right. You decide this even though you’ve heard great things about it and have seen other people get results from it.
Here’s the thing: You usually need to try something out for at least 21 days before you decide whether it’s for you or not. You can’t know what you don’t experience, and you can’t fully experience something until you go all in.
So, turn off your inner analyzer that thinks it knows everything about what works and what doesn’t and give this new habit, and every new habit you try on for size, a real chance.